You spent lots of time planning for the birth of your baby. From taking Childbirth Education classes to touring the hospital to exploring options for pain relief to installing the car seat, you finally feel ready! Well, as ready as you're going to get!

There is usually a lot of planning that goes into preparing for baby's arrival but have you thought about what happens after you have that sweet new life in your arms? The postpartum period is often overlooked since Labor Day steals the spotlight. 

So why is having a postpartum plan just as important or even MORE important? Postpartum lasts much longer than the birth. Though immediate postpartum is the first three months after baby is born, symptoms of postpartum depression and other struggles often surface a year or more after baby is born. It is a long period of adjustment that comes with many hurdles. It's important to have a support system in place.

Social support can be a major deterrent to postpartum depression. Every parents’ needs and expectations will be different. It is wise to identify what you think your needs might be, and then be flexible and allow yourself to change your “plan” if things change after baby arrives.

Who will help with older siblings so you can bond with the baby? Who will help with the baby so you can have some one-on-one time with big sister? Who is available to help with meals? Laundry? Who will hold the baby so you can get some much needed rest?

It is helpful for parents to have a support system set up BEFORE they give birth. Having a few people who have agreed to help when you need extra support can keep you from getting overwhelmed. Many new parents are unprepared for the demands of a newborn. Having someone (or two or three “someones”) there to help with day-to-day responsibilities can be very helpful. NPD is equipped with several doulas who are experts in newborn care and know how to support the entire family during this period of adjustment.  Postpartum doula, anyone?

This time of adjustment can be difficult for at least the first three months after birth. This is sometimes referred to as the “fourth trimester,” when your baby will need his every need attended to in order to smoothly transition from womb to world. Some parents choose to let go of schedules and follow baby’s cues during this time. This can lead to a more relaxed and happy baby and in turn, more relaxed and happy parents. Scheduled parenting can also be helpful so you can maintain your current routines and lifestyle as much as possible. Whichever you choose, parenting is hard work!

Along with support from family members, it is also a good idea to have support from other parents with babies. You will be able to relate to each other and share your experiences. Befriending someone with a child slightly older than yours can be helpful as well to assure you that the phase you are currently in (sleepless nights, trouble learning how to breastfeed, etc.) will soon pass. These friends will be understanding when you show up late or with your hair looking less than perfect. Your childbirth education class is a great place to start making new friends who have babies around the same age as yours. Breastfeeding support groups and “mom” groups are other great places to meet people you can relate to. 

Maintaining a “sense of self” is often something new parents struggle with. It’s easy to get sucked up in the whirlwind of taking care of a baby around the clock. But remember, taking care of yourself is necessary. This is when your support system is crucial. Don’t be afraid to ask for help whenever you need it so you can take some time to yourself, even if it’s only a few minutes. Taking a relaxing bath or shower, going to the grocery store alone, or reading a favorite magazine for even a short time can help “recharge your batteries” so your baby and loved ones can enjoy the best version of you.

Postpartum is a time of new beginnings. It's a time that is often filled with uncertainties and unknowns as you and baby get to know each other. Having a plan in place will give you the confidence you need as you welcome your newest, precious addition.

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